What burner are you on?

What burner are you on? I have a love-hate relationship with this question.

Being a momma of a newly 8 year old and a soon to be 4 year old, I will admit I often find myself on the back burner. Let’s face it. There’s a bit of a shift when you birth beings into this world. You kinda have to take the back seat for a little bit, don’t you?

Yes…and no.

Yes, our kids, our partners and our families are going to be a priority for all of us. It’s natural to be on the backburner when you’ve got kids and a household to manage. But, when the scales tip too far or for too long, the imbalance can have an effect on everyone’s health and happiness.

And no, being on the front burner all the time isn’t where it’s at either. Ever been around someone who only cares for them? It gets a little old after awhile.

The key is balance.

We all struggle with this from time to time. But the key to keeping it sane amidst all of the action is really in finding the middle road. The place where you’re feeling satisfied and you’re able to dole out some TLC.

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Here are my 5 quick tips for finding the middle burner:

1. Schedule “ME” time Yep, you got it. Whip out your week’s calendar and make a date for yourself. Block off a little time for a quick walk, a gentle bath, or a date with your best friend. Do something once a week just for you.

2. Practice saying no Everyone’s life gets wonky from time to time. Saying “no” is a true art form. You don’t need to be ugly or aggressive. Just be honest. The best part about saying no to something is that you’re really saying yes to what you really need. When saying no gets hard for me (because it can), I focus more of my energy on what I’m really saying yes to.

3. Turn off the technology Technology can soak up all sorts of time. If you feel like you don’t have enough time in a week to grant yourself some “ME” time, then try and cut back on your screen time. Those minutes add up pretty darn quick and soon you’ll find yourself getting back to a few things that you really love.

4. Make lists, (and realize that you don’t have to complete ‘em!) Lists seriously up my productivity, but they can also make me a little anxious. There’s nothing like looking at a piece of paper with a whole lot of to-do’s to get my heart racing. So now I make lists, but I’m totally ok with not finishing them. My lists just roll from one week to the next and I don’t have any expectations as to when my to-do’s need to be done.

5. Plan only 40% of your time. If you’re feeling over scheduled and over committed, think long and hard on this one. There really is no need to jam-pack your day. Believe me, the time is going to get filled one way or another. Might as well have a little “cushion” for some spontaneity or even a little solitude. You’ll feel better by the end of your day, and more relaxed by your weekend.

Tell me, how do you get back on track? When things are getting all loopy and crazy, and you can tell you’re giving a whole lot more than receiving, how do you find the middle road? Leave a comment here. You never know who you might inspire.

~ Kristin